I decided to create this
blog not only for myself, but I also wanted to share my story and connect with
other moms-to-be and women that have gone through similar situations.
Background of my pregnancy history
In February 2010 my husband
and I found out we were expecting our first baby. I went to the doctor to have
this confirmed and about 1 or 2 weeks later I started to have some cramping and
spotting so I made an appointment to have an ultrasound and my doctor had told
me that the sac around the baby was oddly shaped and that I would eventually miscarry. I was so hurt and scared
with receiving that news I didn't know where to go from that point on. They
told me to just wait it out see what happens. I miscarried end of February and
had a D&C early March.
In August 2010 I got pregnant again. Everything was
going well. I had a normal pregnancy couldn't be any happier. I went to have my
routine checkup on December 15, 2010 with my OB. She was going to tell us what
the sex of the baby was…IT’S A BOY!! My husband and my mother in law went with
me so it was a very memorable moment. That night my husband and I went out to
dinner to celebrate and discuss baby names .
The very next morning I started to have a lot of lower back pain. I
remember calling my friends and they would tell me “oh its ligament pain cause
you’re growing, it’s normal”. I brushed the pain off for a while but it started
to get worse. Then I started to spot. I then called my doctor immediately. She told
me go into L&D. when I got there the nurse had said I was already dilated 3
centimeters and that I was going to have to deliver my baby that day. My whole
world fell into pieces. I couldn't understand how everything could be fine one
day and go wrong the next. On December 16, 2010 I gave birth to my son Nestor
Daniel Jr. (after his daddy) prematurely at 20 weeks. Doctors diagnosed me with
an Incompetent Cervix (IC). I was told that if I wanted to get pregnant again I
would be considered high risk and would have to have a cerclage put in. A
cerclage is a stitch placed around the cervix to help keep it from
opening. This whole situation was very
difficult for me and my husband to deal with. I’ll never forget the feeling of
holding my son in my arms. He looked so peaceful. We couldn’t have managed life without the
support of our wonderful family and friends.
We waited about a year and
half before deciding to get pregnant again. I had to make sure I was mentally
ready to get pregnant and deal with all the struggles I might go through. Not
knowing what to expect and the fear of losing another baby was very scary for
me, but I wanted to be a mom more than anything so I put on my big girl pants
and decided that this was the right time for me. It had been about 3 months or
so and still couldn’t get pregnant. I started to worry then that I couldn’t get
pregnant. I figured that maybe I was stressed and that maybe that was the
reason I couldn’t get pregnant. My husband and I decided to take a trip to Las
Vegas with a group of friends as a last trip before we became parents .
During the trip I noticed I wasn't quite myself I was sort of moody and I
started to break out bad. Not a good thing for my self-esteem when all my
friends are gorgeous with flawless faces haha. I thought great of all times my
monthly present would come early. A couple days had past and no sign of my
period. The thought I could be pregnant crossed my mind but I wasn't too
hopeful. My husband was excited that this could be it; this could be the month
we got pregnant. He insisted I take a pregnancy test the second we got home. I
did just that, and sure enough after waiting the longest 3 minutes of my life
the test was positive! I stayed in the bathroom for a good 5 to 10 minutes
after reading the results in awe that wow I was pregnant! I started to cry with
happiness and I just couldn’t wait to tell my husband and sister and my two
closest friends the great news.
Isnt it an amazing feeling after all the struggles, being able to get pregnant again and have a healthy baby and pregnancy ( bc i know your going to do great this time around!) I had two miscarriages and thought i wouldnt be able to be the mom i always wanted to be!! But here i am over 38 weeks pregnant! :) ( i found out i was pregnant for a 3rd time, 6 months after my last miscarriage. I was excited, but scared!)
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