I decided to create this blog not only for myself, but I also wanted to share my story and connect with other moms-to-be and women that have gone through similar situations.
Background of my pregnancy history
In February 2010 my husband and I found out we were expecting our first baby. I went to the doctor to have this confirmed and about 1 or 2 weeks later I started to have some cramping and spotting so I made an appointment to have an ultrasound and my doctor had told me that the sac around the baby was oddly shaped and that I would eventually miscarry. I was so hurt and scared with receiving that news I didn't know where to go from that point on. They told me to just wait it out see what happens. I miscarried end of February and had a D&C early March.
In August 2010 I got pregnant again. Everything was going well. I had a normal pregnancy couldn't be any happier. I went to have my routine checkup on December 15, 2010 with my OB. She was going to tell us what the sex of the baby was…IT’S A BOY!! My husband and my mother in law went with me so it was a very memorable moment. That night my husband and I went out to dinner to celebrate and discuss baby names . The very next morning I started to have a lot of lower back pain. I remember calling my friends and they would tell me “oh its ligament pain cause you’re growing, it’s normal”. I brushed the pain off for a while but it started to get worse. Then I started to spot. I then called my doctor immediately. She told me go into L&D. when I got there the nurse had said I was already dilated 3 centimeters and that I was going to have to deliver my baby that day. My whole world fell into pieces. I couldn't understand how everything could be fine one day and go wrong the next. On December 16, 2010 I gave birth to my son Nestor Daniel Jr. (after his daddy) prematurely at 20 weeks. Doctors diagnosed me with an Incompetent Cervix (IC). I was told that if I wanted to get pregnant again I would be considered high risk and would have to have a cerclage put in. A cerclage is a stitch placed around the cervix to help keep it from opening. This whole situation was very difficult for me and my husband to deal with. I’ll never forget the feeling of holding my son in my arms. He looked so peaceful. We couldn’t have managed life without the support of our wonderful family and friends.
We waited about a year and half before deciding to get pregnant again. I had to make sure I was mentally ready to get pregnant and deal with all the struggles I might go through. Not knowing what to expect and the fear of losing another baby was very scary for me, but I wanted to be a mom more than anything so I put on my big girl pants and decided that this was the right time for me. It had been about 3 months or so and still couldn’t get pregnant. I started to worry then that I couldn’t get pregnant. I figured that maybe I was stressed and that maybe that was the reason I couldn’t get pregnant. My husband and I decided to take a trip to Las Vegas with a group of friends as a last trip before we became parents . During the trip I noticed I wasn't quite myself I was sort of moody and I started to break out bad. Not a good thing for my self-esteem when all my friends are gorgeous with flawless faces haha. I thought great of all times my monthly present would come early. A couple days had past and no sign of my period. The thought I could be pregnant crossed my mind but I wasn't too hopeful. My husband was excited that this could be it; this could be the month we got pregnant. He insisted I take a pregnancy test the second we got home. I did just that, and sure enough after waiting the longest 3 minutes of my life the test was positive! I stayed in the bathroom for a good 5 to 10 minutes after reading the results in awe that wow I was pregnant! I started to cry with happiness and I just couldn’t wait to tell my husband and sister and my two closest friends the great news.